A girl never knows when she's gonna sweat. Actually, wait. Yes she does. ALL THE LIVELONG DAY I WANNA MOVE TO ALASKA STAT. After my sweet-smelling prescription-strength deodorant was applied, I proceeded to not put on any makeup. Au naturale today, baby. Then, a piece of jewelry.
Yep. It happened.
I would love to tell you that this bracelet is equipped with super coping powers and an endless supply of chocolate and wine, but.... wait. That's my fridge.
He left at some god-awful early morning hour when good people (and Army people- HARHAR) are still at home in their beds. I am blessed enough to know Sarah, who came over to supervise the two (supposedly sleeping) babies while I did the deed. I thought I would be an ugly, sobbing, emotional wreck there. But when it came time to say our goodbyes, I remembered some things I had read earlier and somehow managed to keep it together.
Before the final farewell, we had some time to hang out (you know, to spread the torture and pain out just a teeeeensy bit longer) and since we were kinda over the whole wailing and gnashing of teeth phase, we decided to try and get a picture of us together. With my phone. In the dark. I promised Steve that I would post every last picture I took. Because they are just that awesome. And even if we tried, I don't think we could come up with this many horrible pictures in a row again.
Let's try to ignore the fact that I look like I've been beaten in the face with a club. (I am kind of an ugly crier, and the ugly effects last long after I've stopped crying.) Let's focus on how Steve looks as drunk as a skunk and cannot keep his eyes open during the flash to save his life. Luckily we wised up on the last picture, used his phone for light, and took one without a flash.
Ahhhh. Normal people.
We heard the final call for farewells, the buses started pulling up, and it was time for me to leave. I got into my car and was immediately blocked in by buses. So I decided to walk back and watch them load up. I stood at the first bus and found Steve sitting there. I creeped on him for more than a few minutes before he noticed me. Somehow my flash got turned back on on my camera, so the last picture I have of him is very hard to see.
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But as soon as I took that picture and turned off my flash, they shut the lights off on the buses and rolled out. I blew kisses at the dark and hoped that he could see me. Then I stood with the other wives and waved at the rest of the buses as they drove out, pretending like I actually knew someone else on there.
While we miss Steve more than a fat kid misses cake (seriously, where did all the cake go?), we are settling into our new routine and trying to stay busy. We are successfully doing that by completing some basic household chores. (HELLO dust bunnies! "Go forth and multiply" did not necessarily apply to you.) And when I say "we" I obviously mean "me." Sam helped by picking up every strand of my hair that he could find (I lose a lot of hair around here) and bringing it to me. Molly chose to nap and drink milk. (What a life!)
I've got a few posts that I wrote pre-deployment that I'm going to post soon (they are not all so light-hearted unfortunately!) and my baby is turning 2 and my other baby is turning 6 months, and I need to update on cloth diapering two under two, and what happened when I mailed my first care package (y'all know there's a story there), and I think I will still be expected to cook and clean and care for these two dependent humans I am responsible for, so we will see how all of that goes.
I apologize for the wacky picture spacing. I tried and tried and tried to get it to look normal, but in the end, decided that I cannot waste any more time on it. I don't know why they look like that.
I need technological assistance. And cake. STAT.
*Also. My sweet blog friend Jane made this bracelet for me. You can find some just like it in her Etsy shop!
*hugs* to you as you start your deployment. We really need to get the boys together again. Now that I don't have my two older boys to entertain during the day anymore :)
ReplyDeleteAnd I really like that bracelet!
I am crying for you as I read this. I swear it's first few and last couple days that are the worst. Thinking of y'all and praying the time just flies. I'll be there next month (which holllaaaaa!) and I come bearing wine, lots and lots of wine!
ReplyDeleteI was wondering how you were going to go about the OH MY GOODNESS HE'S GONE post. I'm impressed. Very creative and, I might add, informative. I hope I didn't seem like I wasn't interested in the specifics of the goodbye. I just wasn't sure if I should ask a lot of questions about it or not. I figure if you want to talk about it or not you know where I live! And what my phone number is. And my email address. Basically you know where I be. ♥
ReplyDelete(hugs) You didn't even mention it, but reading this made me remember that growing empty feeling I always get when I drive away after seeing off my guy. I'm sending you some fellow milspouse support from England!
ReplyDeleteGetting busy with a routine is definitely the key! Sometimes time will fly, sometimes it will crawl. But each day will pass, and one day he'll be home.
And I'm totally impressed that you took pictures, by the way.
Ahh, you can do it!!! I remember deployment, it was tough, but it makes you stronger! How long will he be gone for?
ReplyDeleteI sent Jonathan messages through email several times a day, that really helped! Stay tough and let me know if you need anything!!!
Dude. *hugs*
ReplyDeleteIt will go by faster than you think! Hugs!
ReplyDeleteAwwww!!!!!! I'm here for you! Seriously, you can have my cell number and text me anytime you need to laugh, cry, vent or just talk to an adult. I'm here for ya!!!!! You are not alone, remember that. :)
ReplyDeleteI really hope I can keep it together when Lane leaves. I almost hope there isn't a long drawn-out waiting period. I would rather drop him off, say our goodbyes and get out of there. The best goodbye we ever had was when we were late to drop him off in Ranger School. I tore into the parking lot, he kissed me and jumped out.
ReplyDeleteYou got this!! :)
ReplyDeleteI am 2 months into mine, and I have to say the goodbye was the hardest. Actually I take that back. The night before the goodbye was the hardest. Now I am just counting down days and trying my best to stay busy.
With two little ones, I am sure you will have your hands full and time will fly by. It sounds like you are doing great though. :) Not sure how Army works, but I hope he isn't gone for that God awful year long deployment. If so, I will find a way to send you cake!
Aw sweet pictures though...J is forever squinting in his pics! May this deployment pass by quickly and may the wine be plentiful! XOXO!
ReplyDeleteI knew it was coming- block leave, bonding fun runs, ugh. You'll get settled in and it won't be so bad. And next year when he's back and there are wet PT shorts on the bathroom floor you mighttttt even miss it ;) I'm sure everyone has all kinds of advice but there really isn't much I can say because I don't know the specofic catastrophes you're going to encounter. Cars will break, ceilings will leak, kids will go to the ER, stray cats will set up camp on your back patio, .. Maybe that's just me... and you'll come out on the other side feeling like if you could handle this year you can handle anything!
ReplyDeleteIm back with more to say now that I am reading this again and pretending both kids aren't screaming in my face and not acknowledging that I am sitting in graham cracker crumbs.... For some reason the day Justin left was pretty much devoid of all visible emotion. We said goodbye like he was going to be home that night. In reality the feeling in my stomach that day and the day before was the worst thing I've ever felt in my life. Day 0 will be the worst one. See- that's optimistic right?
ReplyDeleteOh, girl. It was a year ago this week that Noah left for boot camp, and Ethan asked, "Mommy, is your heart bloken?" GAAAAAH. And then seeing him at graduation only to say goodbye AGAIN immediately. I ugly cried hardcore.
ReplyDeleteHave we met? No. But I send my love to you and your babies and your hubs. My heart is with you, aches for you, and swells with pride for your beautiful family.
Oh, girl. It was a year ago this week when Noah left for boot camp, and Ethan asked me, "Mommy, is your heart bloken?" GAAAAH.
ReplyDeleteHave we met? No. But I send you and your babies and your hubs my love. My heart is with you, aches for you, and swells with pride for your beautiful family.
Jenn!!! My heart hurts for you. You have my number text if you need to vent or what not. It will not always be easy but I know you've got this chicka. Stay strong and I will pray it goes fast (and relatively easy) for you.
ReplyDeleteI love all the pictures you tried to take together. Deployments suck but cake definitely helps! Love to you :)
ReplyDeleteUgh. Deployment. I hope it goes super quickly for you and that you settle into a routine ASAP!!! As someone else said, the first few days/weeks are the hardest.
ReplyDeleteAlso. I swear I have the EXACT same picture of the bus my husband left in when he deployed.
Have a glass of wine - you deserve it!! =)
I'm so sad for you! I'd drink a whole bottle of wine in your honor, but ya know, I can't. I wish I was there to help you out with the kiddos, eat your fudge, and take your mind off of it. Let the countdown begin.
ReplyDeleteAww your picture session reminds me of Daniel and mine his last deployment too. It's hard to get cute pictures in the dark with cry face. But that last one is perfect. Boo deployments. Ugh they just suck.
ReplyDeleteThat deodorant works wonders & I'm glad you like your bracelet.
*hugs* I have been thinking of y'all a lot lately. Call/text anytime day or night!
ReplyDeleteOh Jenn!! You had me tearing up at seeing your face all red from crying and then you had me smiling real big with all of those funny photos! :)
ReplyDeleteYou are a brave and strong and beautiful woman and I admire your strength and your ability to still laugh during what has to be a very difficult time for you all.
I am sorry your husband has had to deploy, I will be thinking of you and him and those precious babies of yours and I wish him a speedy return to where he belongs. He is a hero, and we thank him for serving xoxo
Thank you for visiting me, I hope you have a good day xoxo
okay girl i don't even know where to start except that you ARE AMZING and so is your hubby!!! maybe we can exchange numbers and chat some day soon! hang in there. praying for you and him and those sweet munchkins to be good to their mama! XOXOX- Christine
ReplyDeleteI have no idea how I missed this one... Geez. I literally laughed out loud AND cried during this post, so you know. Oscar worthy here. And so similar to the goodbyes I've had with Brian :) It's a hard time. Hope you can lean on lots of friends, and count me as one of them.
ReplyDeleteYou have such a great spirit about it all, you can do it :)
ReplyDeleteAwe no doll! :( sending much hugs your way.
ReplyDelete-wHiT